Tick tock tick

Flashback to 2010

House mistress :  Gift you have a phone call. 

Me: hello 

My brother : your friend is dead . 

Me: wait , which friend ? 

Brother:  His name is Yemi . 

Me:  😷😷

 Till today I still can't believe Yemi is dead . I mean I have a special board for him on my pinterest , I wrote about him in my journal ,I think about him a lot whenever he comes to mind , but i kent do nothing . The almighty made his choice and i hope he's in a better place .😿

A while before he died we weren't really on good terms , and he came over to patch things up but i couldn't see him due to some issues. Till today , i can never forget looking out of the window to see if I could see him from my house .I carry it around like a yoke . I wish i damned everuthing and went to see him but all my wishes can't even shift a piece of  paper . All I have right now are the memories 😢😢 of our time together .

LONG STORY SHORT ....

 All I'm trying to say is ,since  we all have people we love and care for be it friends , family members , patners  , whoever it may be . 

Don't jeopardize that bond for anything . Show them how much you love them, appreciate them not only by mouth but also actions . YES ! We've all had shitty experiences with people in the past  based on emotions but still. 

Its essential to show our loved us how much they mean to us. We would never know how much time we have left. Hard core takes you nowhere . This life is like a clock, the first tick , Mr A would be alive , the next , he might be gone..... 

To avoid regrets and finger biting .... Appreciate your loved ones today. 

Remember:  The value of a thing is seldom known until its lost . 

Cheers 💝. 

All a matter of choice .

Hi everyone,  its been a month since I last posted.  Sigh, I'm sorry about that,  ive been really busy, caught up with life so to say. So basically this is a random post of how Ive been so far and how one choice of happiness has opened doors for others.

Towards the end of last month,  I had a difficult choice to make, this thing made me worry for a lot of days,  I always felt uncomfortable till finally the choice was made.  Apparently I didn't have to make the choice directlly by myself .  I'm happy I handled things the way I did and made the right choice for the first time in a long while . I CHOSE TO BE HAPPY.

The bottomline of this post is just to tell that we always have a choice,  no matter what.  It can be in any area love, career,  money,  academics,  anything at all. I mean we are entitled to make any choice we want, the question is what choice will you make?

At earlier times,  I had to make that same choice o was talking about but  those things I made them out of sentiment.  This time I decided to let go of sentiment throw there. Mind you,  when I did,  I found out were I was going to be happy and I stayed there and I don't regret ever doing that.

All I'm saying is let go of sentiment and bias and choose to be happy today. We get to live only once and everyone deserves to be happy. Especially you. 👊

Bless up. 🎈🎈.

The fab clan.

As a fashion designer i haven't really been repping on here. This post is basically about fabrics and other sewing materials ; I assure you, you may not understand a word of what i put on here (in this post) , but I'll try and make it as interesting as possible .

Okayss let's go....

chiffon : this fabric is like the most frustrating fabric to use , but when you make something out of it , it becomes bae 😍😍. It has a soft texture . 

In the real world he/she plays hard to get  but if you like her you need to give her/him all your attention and she would loveeee you . Most times they ate geeks or nerds. They are have a soft heart.

Cotton : pretty normal fabric , no hassle 😌. If you want to sew with it , you don't even need to kill your self over it .NO  time . Psshhh ✂.

 As a person , he/she is the easy going, free minded type, obedient ,no much drama or no.drama at all , might be popular , might not. 

Silk: sigh, this material can do shakara sha but sometimes it co-operates . It's so beautiful 💦 and it can dance💃💃.. lool. It is also popular . It has ashawo tendencies 😂😂. It is not friendly 😒. 

Lace : one of my favs 💕😊.  They come in different colours and designs . In the  human world, they are high spirited , friendly👭 ,social ,beautiful💦, smart😏 , hot👅 . I mean the whole package. Many  people love them ,but the thing is , they are very expensive ehhhhh. If you want to roll with them better get your black card out . They are worth the stress tho. Geready 😎.

Spandex , lacra and crepe: This fabrics can draw for african , elastic sturvs like this , any small thing they will expand. Okro things on point.  

They are the ajebuta people , any small touch , they will change it for you😪😪. Just thread carefully , be good to them and they  would be good to you . 

Jeans ,velvet  and the likes :   Dayummm, these fabrics are harrddddd ajepako like this , they have seen life as it is. The good, bad and ugly . They are ready to put you through hell , if you won't be patient with them . They end up ruining your life if you keep doing gra gra . They have no chill. So mean 😢😢. 

Net , linen: they are the wannabes of fabrics , but they have not choice . They can't move forward , they can't move past were they are . They cant out run they seniors .

Finallllyyyy!!! Buttons , elastic, bias, scissors , tailors chalk , measuring tape ,Threads ,pins , needles are the supporting instruments in sewing . They help put the fabrics together . In reality, these people are your helpers, friends ,family, patners , they help to keep you on track . Basically, they will always be there for you no matter what.🙅 That's why a dress can can never be made without needle,scissors, measuring tape and thread etc.  

Sometimes two or more types of fabrics can be joined together , to make a style . Most of those combinations are more beautiful than fabric that are sewed on their own . 

Bottomline is ,we are all different from one another , and we should learn to embrace our personality irrespective of what people think.😕 In any sphere of life you find yourself ,law enforcement officer👮,engineer 👷, model👸 perform you duties well , because that's the only way we all can move forward .  That is the only way our dress will come out beautuful👗 . Also, no man is an island , and we need to learn how to live with others 👬👭👫; that's one of the things that makes life beautiful.

LOVE YOURSELF 💖

So which fabric are you ??? . 

COMMENTSS !! 👇👇 

 CHEERS AND THANKS FOR READING😘😘😘 

  

YES! That’s why it’s a ship

Todaaayy, we gan be talking about one of my best topics. Guess? Guesssss . Okay, fine fine I’d tell you. Its gan be about friendships. I want to point out that friendship is like the second most popular topic talked about on social networks, well it’s a kind of relationship yo. Anyway, I just going to try and define it in my own little way.

Friendship is an unromantic relationship that involves two or more people that have philia love (unconditional) for themselves .Mark the word (philia) and also the word (love). Aristotle believed that a person can bear goodwill to another for one of three reasons: he is useful, pleasant and that he is good. From my point of view , It is called a ship BECAUSE ; ships are meant for more than one person , that is when you are in a friendship, you have to act not only in your interest but the interest of others involved in the ship .

So first of all I’m not going to define love , I’m just going to  refer you to the greatest book of all time , so you will read what it says about love in  1corintians 13 . I just want to point out some attributes of love that I would use later :Love is patient and kind , love doesn’t not boast , love envieth not , love is not arrogant or rude , it doesn’t insist on its way , rejoices in the truth , love bears all things , believes all things ,hopes all things ,and endures all things .

With the reference I made to the Bible , I can decide   to stop typing this post because it is  detailed enough to pass the message to anybody that is reading this post or is going to read it . But I’m going to go on any way, im mainly going to be painting out scenarios that relate to the attributes mentioned above.

 Ok so that been said, let’s start the body of this message proper.

Have a seat please, adjust your glasses.

I’m going to be using 5 persons in my scenarios (Most if not all scenarios are based on true stories)

Person 1: raya

Person 2:  kaya

Person 3: faya

Person 4: saya

Person 5: naya

SCENARIO 1:

In this school, students that have excellent results are encouraged by having their names put up on a notice board so the whole school gets to see them. Saya and raya are “close friends”. 

Naya , faya and Kaya : omg saya , your name is on honours roll, come come and see.

Saya : lol, stop lying jare . I don’t believe

Naya , faya and Kaya: we are serious , just come .

Saya finds out that her name is truly on the honours roll and is too exicted, it also happened that she was the fifth position in class. She was confused because she didn’t engage in exclusive reading, even the night prep, most times she didn’t get to read, lol. Raya gets to know about saya’s name being on the honours roll and makes a very bitter comment

Raya : How can she be fifth and n have her name on honours roll and me that walks with her has to go for extra lessons, I won’t even talk to her again . She’s so wicked.

Saya heard about it and feel very disappointed.  Raya stops talking to Saya and starts moving with some other people. Saya is left all alone to face the world, she begins to fall apart because she lost a friend earlier on and this other one is angry about her success .

What do you think?

Love envieth not: how can you call yourself somebody’s friend and be so bitter about the person’s success? I mean I’m in awe at the way people actually behave.  You share your lunch money together, you eat together, you laugh together but deep down you have an inner hatred for the person? I mean how???

It’s so sad that these days’ things like these are rampant; some people go as far as even snatching their friend’s husbands, my lord, this world is really wicked. All I have to say is, if you feel bad about som ething good happening in your friends life, you don’t deserve to be called a friend of that person. 

If you have any reservations, tell the person, don’t go around telling random people things, gossiping and bringing strangers into your ship to sink it. When there are too many people on a ship, it begins to weigh the ship down, or when it hits an iceberg, what happens? The ship sustains a scar that can never be fixed and then from there it goes down  till it gets to bottom of the sea, and most times very few people can survive it. You may use a safety boat or whatever, but the chances of survival are very slim, and if you finally get to dry land, you will never forget that event, it will be like a scar and also a miracle, because you may never want to travel by water ever again. The ship in this scenario is your friendship, and the people are you and the other people you invited into the friendship, when it hits the iceberg, it will sink so fast and even if you guys manage to swim out of the cold water to dry land, the stigma of having friends and getting betrayed will remain with the friend’s trust you betrayed forever.

SCENARIO 2: (final scenario)

Kaya, naya and faya are very close friends, almost inseparable. Kaya set Naya up big time maybe just to spite her in front of everybody. Prior to the setup, naya to kaya about a particular situation related to the setup that may strain their friendship, but kaya ignored it and decided to rather set her friend up. Naya had other friends that knew about the setup, but they didn’t tell her. When kaya finally went through with the setup, she ensured the call was recorded and almost everybody knew about it but naya. She resumed  school and people were acting weird to her, someone even threatened her.She wondered why it was so  Until the issue escalated and naya was made to look like a real devil, naya couldn’t feel her legs for some days, she cried her eyes out, guess what?

Faya went to meet crying naya , guess what she said ?

how would you do that to kaya? 

 LOL. Yes im in shock as well because, the right question to ask is what really happened?

I mean, she was her friend despite whatever she heard from the people around. It’s better to hear from the horses’ mouth you know. Naya was too weak to talk, but she just kept crying. Faya didn’t know the fire she ignited in Naya , at that moment Naya’s two friends had betrayed , but what hurt the most was that faya , the last person that might have believed her true story and her only hope was already charmed by the sweet words of kaya and the remaining people in the world . Their ship had finally hit the biggest iceberg, they didn’t even need people to help them sink their ship, words of the mouth uprooted the anchor of their friendship and it couldn’t be fixed back because the ship was already halfway to the bottom of the sea. From this action naya changed a lot, she trusted less and cared less.

You want people to sink your ship? fine go ahead, allow them to feed you with their hateful ideas and illusions, their horrible rumors and all sorts .Love believeth all things, sadly faya didn’t even listen to naya’s story in the first place, talk more of believing her , love is patient: why didn’t faya just give naya a hug first even if she was mad at her before she spat those words at her? Or even if not hug her may pat her back or clean her tears?  Want to know why?

BECAUSE FRIENDSHIP HAS LOST ITS VALUE.

Nowadays, you can call anyone your friend, even the girl you met on the bus yesterday and talked about how to make akara and puff puff . So what ? Because you enjoyed their company, you’re now friends with them?? The best example of a friend is Jesus, because he laid down his life for us. That’s the greatest sacrifice anybody can make. It says, no greater love than a man to die for his friends . Now I’m not saying you should die, and yes I’m saying you should die literally because to me the basis of a good friendship is love, and love to me involves death, literally. Death to self because you are thinking of the consequences of your actions you know and how it will affect other people in the ship.

NOT EVERYBODY YOU TALK TO IS YOUR FRIEND

One other thing I’d like to address is the aspect of communication, the phrase of “we don’t talk everyday but I know you got me and I got you “fine I agree but what exactly do you got in me? Because, you don’t even know what happened in my life yesterday, whether I almost died or my mum is still stuck in Rome. My point is ,try to make up for lost times whenever you talk to your friend supposing you don’t talk every day , that way you won’t become strangers so quick .

One important thing to note also is that, if somebody is not adding value to your life, doesn’t even care whether youre alive or dead, but pops up from time to time to ask for help. Let me tell you the best thing to do: board the next flight to your hometown, ask for the biggest cutlass, and cut the friendship. You don’t need such in your life. Any one   who “friend” is always trying to act drama and cause a scene and always involves you? Ask them what they want, if they don’t know, use that cutlass too. Ehen!!

If you are bothered about whether you will have 5 grooms’ men or 12 bride’s maids, my dear, it’s not worth the hassle. It’s better to have only one grooms man or brides maid , than to have 20 and be wondering if 2 are sleeping with your spouse or making arrangement with your  spouse on their new meeting point when you and your spouse relocate or how they will poison the wine cup you’ll use . The one friend you trust that is loyal is better than 10 disloyal lots. So thread carefully.

 Also loyalty and all those lots come with the friendship package, if it doesn’t come breakout early. RUN!!!! Let your heels touch the back of your head. Just like when you buy a phone, no matter how small. It comes with a charger, an earpiece; a battery and a manual if it doesn’t you return it back. So much so, return the person back to his base when the warranty still stands before they ruin your life.

Long story short, all I’m saying is that if you love your friend , act just like Jesus did, he died so we might live. I mean I can't begin to phantom what kind of love can make anyone do that but he did. If you are guilty of sinking your ships, you still have a chance to change, if you don’t know how ask God to teach you how because he is the greatest teacher. Friendship is not by mouth, it is by actions, the little things you do can go a very long way. Most good relationships and marriages have strong and solid friendship backing with will last till marriage vows wear out.

Lastly, one thing I want to correct is that I believe  there is no such thing as a “true” friend. The person is either your friend or not. That is why there are words like acquaintance, colleague, mate etc. there isn’t anything like fake friend either. Yes, I know people pretend to be friends with you and will do you dirty, whosoever those that is not your friend or “fake friend”. Find another word for it that doesn’t have to do with friend.

Thank you all for reading, God bless.           

 I hope we all become better friends to our friends.

COMMENTS? QUESTIONS ?

As simple as ABC, as basic as 123

After being single for more than 2 years, I think I’m in a good position to break down the stages of single-hood. LMAO, trust me it isn’t that bad. Okay it can be quite frustrating at times though. 

Basically you can choose the easy way or hard way in this hood that you’ve found yourself in. That being said let us define single-hood now, shall we? LOL.

Single-hood is a state of being free from every form of romantic  attachment , thus freedom from too much drama, unnecessary thinking which brings about the  absence  morning texts messages , frequent awesome calls, butterflies in your tummy and so on. Its okay because you going to have to get used to it eventually , for its gan be a loonnggg ride .

Okay lets go , I would just bring it down for you , just like doctors tell sick people the symptoms to expect stage by stage . This time around, it only gets better.

Any way welcome , you can have a seat and enjoy !

Month 1-6 : you will feel very messed up, worthless maybe , you will stalk your ex a lot on all the social medias possible , you will try to find solace anywhere , you will talk about the good and bad times you had in the relationship with anybody that is ready to listen, you will replay different scenarios  and think about how you will have rather acted , you will cry a lot when you remember odd times and laugh-cry when you remember good and fun times , you will visit places you guys went to a lot, when you see you ex , you will want to see him or her  but from afar not so close . when you see them with the opposite sex, your heart will skip a beat because that should have been you. You will listen to the songs that remind you of them, you will lay on your bed at night and think of them till you sleep, you will check your phone every minute to see if he or she has called or sent a message, you might browse on how to get your ex back,you will try all you can to keep the relationship alive within you but then you might get tired along the way. Did I miss anything?

MONTH 6-12

The ex is not back yet? Lol , so you are still with me ? oh child , don’t cry it will get better . *peck*. So this time around, you’re getting stronger, you are still deciding on whether to pick your heart from the floor or just leave it there for a little while. At this stage, you would have healed a little and you might be able to talk about the relationship and breakup to someone for 5mins without crying. You will be able to reduce the way you visit his or her page on social networks, you will be able to smile and laugh at some funny jokes that don’t relate to the ex, you will be able to watch him from one yard away, that’s pretty close yes? You will try to delete some songs that you both loved and like half of your pictures with him or her , you will start getting used to the fact that no one will call you for like 4days straight , never will you  get any message. You might try to browse on the topics “how to forget someone you love”, “how to move on” , tried all those steps ? Did they help? NO?   LOL, ok good so you are still with me . Drink that coke now and let’s continue, shall we?

MONTH 12-18

It’s been a long time coming don’t you think? We should celebrate one year of being single yehh . Cheers to us! . I told you it’s not that bad. Okay so for this period, you might be looking and praying for a new bae , that’s alright because 1year is pretty long to be single , you might be lucky . You might not be, if you are kudos, I wish you an awesome relationship and hitch free as well. If you are still single!. lmao sorry eh , its happens to the best of us. You better start embracing that singleness because sulking won’t take you anywhere. You will try going on a few dates , hooking up with old friends to see if it may work out with them , reading and retweeting quotes about relationships , stalking pages and profiles of random couples you feel are kicking it hard , saying your awwws and wishing . Well wish on boo. You will visit wedding blogs the likes of bella naija , you may even go as far as watching proposal videos on YouTube. Wow, okay that’s getting intense lool.  You will complain a lot to your friends, loool, its better when you both are single , so you will complain together lool, its better that way . MORE FUN .  If you are smart you will do a lot of self building .

MONTH 18-24

You may still be off and on the whole wanting to date someone soon issue, but right now the remaining part of your heart you ex didn’t take is almost back in shape , but you will find it hard to let anyone in at this point . you will feel that they will stay for a while and leave , or they will just play small and go. You will still be catching feelings small small, it’s allowed but you will start getting tired and fed up of trying . You will start focusing on other important things like getting closer to GOD ,  making money etc . We’re getting to my best part yo ! . self-building continues /

MONTH 24 AND ABOVE

i didn’t hear anything guys, aren’t we meant to celebrate ? I mean we've been on this journey for what ? Two years and we are still kicking , I mean lool . At this point you may think something is wrong with you. No child, nothing is wrong.  Anyway, id make this on brief . this time around, we are now mature and we've healed from sting, we are ready to face our business fair and square . So here , you will realize that life is not that hard and there is more to life that a relationship ,  and that there are other things to do that might even enhance your relationship later . along the way many give up especially on marriage . IF YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH, STAY STRONG . YOUR STRENGTH WILL GET YOU TO YOUR FINAL DESTINATION.

EMBRACE YOUR SINGLENESS, NOBODY WILL DO IT FOR YOU.

TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME

AND REMEMBER LIFE IS NOT THAT SERIOUS.

 ENJOY BEING A SINGLET WHILE IT LASTS .

COMMENTS??

 THANKS FOR READING

TO MY FUTURE SPOUSE

I really don't know if it's a poem or a random writeup. Oh well enjoy

So long my love i've waited,

For 365 days every year till date

24 hours every day,

7 days every week, 

And twelve months every year;

I know your arrival is near,

There is no rush my love,

For a king must take his time,

And his bride must get ready

To be swooped away to his palace

A thousand soldiers have come for my hand

All have been denied because I know I deserve a Knight

Who will treat me right,

All day and night

My King, When finally meet ;

We will drink and feast

And serve the largest meat

Together, we will dance through the rain and the storms

We will lay on sea shores and watch as ships disappear into the horizon.

We will lay on our bed of roses and the sun rise in the east and set in the west

We will raise our princes and princesses 

To become great kings and queens 

And remind them each day of our unconditional and undying love for them;

And teach them how and when to love, let go and breathe

Years and Years will go by;

And our love will still stand strong;

Like a mountain that cannot be moved

When every strand of hair on our heads have turned grey,

And our grinders can grind no more

And our windows are partially shut

Then we would join our hands together

And remind ourselves of our undying love for each other

When the final call of nature comes in his black chariot;

I would dress in white and you in black, like we are to wed,

You will shine your armor, as I comb my long black hair

Then we will hold each other’s hands and whisper with our last breath,

VENI, VIDI, AMAVI.

And then we will soar high to the great beyond,

Where we will meet to part no more,

The world will never be the same without us

For they will mourn the death of a great king and Queen

A love story that can never be reincarnated

A story that would never have an end

While heaven will celebrate the arrival of a faithful son and an obedient daughter

And we will live forever will our GOD and Father.

Ekab Takon 

13/06/2016

In between walls .

Extracts from my book I may never publish" In between walls" .

 A part of Chapter 1 

They drank the juice in silence, Theresa finally broke the silence.

“You know who I am right”?

“I think so the woman replied”

Theresa took a glance at the woman’s face, she seemed confused. She decided to put the woman out of her confusion. “I’m your daughter” she said.

The woman wore the facial expression of someone that had just seen a ghost. She took a deep breathe, stood up and open the door widely.

‘Please you can take your leave’, she told Theresa bluntly.

Theresa walked to the door supporting her swollen belly with her right hand. She gave the woman one last look and then walked away. 

                    A part of chapter 2.

FLASHBACK (5YEARS AGO)

Theresa ran to the end of the street meanwhile ignoring her mother’s cry of plea, “Theresa don’t do this, please” she kept on repeating, but Theresa turned deaf ears to her mother’s plea. She ran straight into the moving lorry as Mr Akpan and his family put the last of set of luggage. Once she and her load were inside, Theresa sobbed softly, knowing she might never see her mother again. She was fed up of her endless quarrels with her mother. They practically argued about everything, she decided that leaving was the only solution. She didn’t know it was just the beginning of her pain.

           

TOO SOON , TOO LATE .

This is actually a long but true story about my mistakes and how impatience made me throw true love  into the Bermuda triangle of love called breakup. I hope someone learns from this story,OK let's go.

     I was in High school, senior secondary school 2, i was shy and I hadn't even had a boyfriend then. I was not even popular, i kept to my self , all i did was go to school and try to survive . PS: i always sat at the back. 

George was quite popular, i have never had it in for the popular ones though, but he was special. I had a crush on him in SS1 but i had to overcome it because he wasn't even in my league .LOL. 

  One public holiday , children's day (May 27 , 2010) i can never forget , i didnt go home ( I stayed in the hostel) . My school organised something for those of us in school , so we had to attend it . After the event, I saw George standing somewhere around , he told someone he wanted to talk to me . Long story short, he wanted me to be his date for the upcoming social night. I was sure it was a dream , some of the "popular girls " didn't like the idea maybe they thought i was too petty for "great George". Finally, he got to ask for my number from someone , which was rare maybe I wasn't peng enough . Anyway we got talking .

     Fast forward to summer 2010, i was about entering my final year in high school and I decided to attend summer school . When he heard I was going to attend summer school, he decided to use the opportunity to attend summer classes to prepare for SAT/TOEFL . Summer started well , best summer of my life , this is the best part of the story . I was so shy, i always ran  home early so I didn't get to see George a lot , but we talked a lot on phone . He sent me tons and tons of messages , we talked every single day. We patronised MTN that year , MIDNIGHT CALL GANG !!! 

  At the of the beginning of the new session , we were already dating and that was the beginning of my 5 months reign as Queen Georgina beside my king George . He sang for me , we sang together , he made me love M.I . He is the only one I remember really singing for , he was my rock and Anchor. He was so proud of me , my pictures were all over his Facebook , the whole world knew us, my mum, dad , and siblings and his fam members as well  . One time he  called  a radio station  requested that a song should be  played for me . Another time he made an arrangement with MTN to send me love messages using a special number, he wrote me love letters , he sent flowers, he sent anybody he could sent to tell me how much he loved me . He showered me with love . He never forced me to do anything I didn't want to do

   On my birthday, we went out of school to get Ice-cream , and just chill. Unfortunately we had the bigger fight ever, i was frustrated , I tried to stay by myself because I felt like every thing had crumbled and my heart couldn't take it .  Everybody saw us apart and knew there was something wrong and trust me the anger led to me taking an action that still follows me today . I cried all day , i even cried myself to sleep . Finally we reconciled . For my birthday , he got me the best card ever , I still have it till date . Most times , we met up when school was over , we would either come to my class or we would just meet up. 

  We finally began to drift apart, and I didn't do anything about it , I didn't really know that communication would help us , although he kept skipping school. Things continued like that for like a month and I finally decided to end things . I saw something that looked like he had something to do with another girl in his inbox on Facebook coupled with the strain in our relationship . I finally ended things with him on a sheet of paper. I wasn't bold enough to tell him face to face, but the moment i put that piece of paper in his hand I started regretting my action but I couldn't turn back the hands of time. Till today his record hasn't been beaten by anyone i've dated since then. 

 ONE THING I KNOW IS THAT TRUE LOVE EXIST BECAUSE GEORGE SHOWED ME WITHOUT HOLDING BACK .

- I just want y'all to understand that Patience is very essential ,setting aside your ego in a relationship

 is very essential .

- Communicate !!!

- Also live one day at a time , if someone makes you happy stay with the person . Don't keep thinking of   what might happen tomorrow . 

Finally love when you can , you may never have any other chance . ciao . 

P.S. Scorpios are the BOMMMBBB!!!!

The new way ?

     So yes I got done with school about a month and 5 days ago. When say school, I mean University/college anyone you wish to call it. That's actually not the purpose of me writing this post .
This post is majorly about the quest to find "the one " so far and some other things relating to it .
      It seems like these days finding a very serious person with the major traits that I'm looking for is really difficult , i kind of decided to give up.  Honestly, the traits are not hard or physical traits, but somehow the guys I've been meeting either lack some very vital content in their life. Ranging from honesty to even the least character trait. Some find it really hard to keep to,their words which makes me often wonder ,  "ok, this guy really claims to like me an all that, but what happens along the line if his problem of not keeping to his words becomes an issue ? .  Sometimes i begin to wonder whether all the good men are married or they are hiding lool. THe fine ones will form as if beauty is everything , even the "not so fine ones"  too have started forming haha. If girls form now, next thing they will call her a drama queen , i mean "What do men want really" ? There should actually be a movie like that .
Lately, chatted up an old acquaintance i met off twitter, and he was too cool tbh , chatting with him made crazy sense. As things went by , the issue of "us" came up and he claimed to want to take his time . I gave him quality space you know , but after that , we basically stopped talking . It was weird because it was very easy for him to have just zoned me and we would have continued our friendship . than raised my hopes up high and just disappear . I had an experience similar to that and decided not to let my emotions get the best of me ever!! .
Tbh. many good girls are ready to be serious but the boys they like or they are waiting for are either forming james bond everywhere or just not observant enough , the painful part is most times they get to realise all these things late , of which at that time , it might be irreversible .

       The bottom line of my long story is that guys should sit up and watch well for signs , they could be facial expressions or even in form of joke , anything at all. It will be really sad for you to regret not keeping the right girl because of one silly thing or the other .
Most girls including me  feel very awkward expressing their feelings to guys they like, so therefore they act them out , there can be in different ways really like ( always wanting to talk to you , keeping the convo going, asking you random questions etc) . Some girls tend to give up once they see you're not even showing a pint of interest, and if she is a good girl, you might lose her forever and end up biting your fingers. So guys, do we girls a favour and be observant , and please please and please , if you are not interested , tell the girl early!!!! instead of making her feel like a pest . Even the bible says that the man will leave his parents and cleave to his wife . Looking at biblical examples : Isaac was the one that went to look for a wife not the other way round , Boaz made the first move on Ruth . even the king that married Esther in the Bible made the first move.
      Trust me im not saying its bad for girls to make the first move , if they can , well why not, but if not guys don't let something good slip through you fingers because of one flimsy reason or another . Also guys try to build yourselves up as well , its not only girls that need to have good character and courtesy and all of that ,we all need it you know . Everything is not about money or face or even both , because in the end true friendship with includes ( good character and courtesy) will sustain relationships and all of those .

GUYS Y'ALL SHOULD SIT UP, THE GIRLS CAN'T BE TRYING TO SIT UP AND Y"ALL BE RELAXING AND FEELING CHILLED. IT'S A TWO SIDED GAME , EVEN THE COIN IS 2SIDED.

 LESS I FORGET, FRIENDSHIP IS KEY , IT IS THE BASIS FOUNDATION FOR A GOOD RELATIONSHIP .

Thanks for reading . Adios .

Till next time .

HIII, Its been too long, I think i actually miss blogging , maybe just a little. Actually a lot has happened in my life aside graduation and all that, I finally decided to create pages on different social medias and an email for my fashion empire. I feel so happy tbh . I've gotten a lot better , and soon i'll be posting some outfits I make or I've already made . Okay with all these been said I would like to go to the topic of today in my next post . ciao .

my trophy gown ❤❤

it is meant to be with the other post, i dont understand all these 😂😭

UNOFFICALLY OFFICIAL

So today my works finally got recognized and are going to be displayed as soon as always WHOOP! I’d just brief you on what the work entails. I designed some costumes with a fruits/vegetable theme, LAWWD they were so beautiful, and I took the measurement of the models involved. I mean thinking, drawing, and painting which included mixing colours anyhow lol. People kept commending the work, I feel so fulfilled rn, I can scream out loud, loool . I mean tbh, I thought and thought over the costumes and how to create awesome ideas using fruits, oh well more to come. I’ll keep y’all posted.

THANK YOU LORD.

A LOVE LETTER TO MY CAREER

 Its feels so good to finally get the chance to write to you. I know this seems very awkward but you mean a lot to me and I can’t help expressing my emotions. Your loyalty to me since 2012 when I first met you and got attracted to you till now has been too awesome. In you I find happiness, I think about you both day and night and how our lifelong journey will pan out eventually. I daydream of how it will be to finally fulfil my dreams with you, about that day I would be globally recognized because of our bond throughout the years. Your embellishments bring huge smiles to my face, your prints bring joy to my heart and your splash of colours warms my heart. You've brought out h best in me since I met you and you excite me with your awesome designs. Your manipulations are adorable; I won’t trade them for the world. Your chalk has left an everlasting mark in my life and your needle helps me thread the right path.

Till this day, life has so much meaning to me and because of your presence in my life, and so I'm so confident that even after my exit from this earth, my legacy will leave on, thanks to you. You’re my “PERFECT WORK OF ART” and you make me feel alive. My most loyal friend, my confidant, and my lover in you I find a sense of serene.  Passion is an understatement when describing you, in you I've found true love. I hope and pray our love never goes sour, because if it does it will be one of my greatest losses. May your creations remain awesome; your bebuttons fastened for the journey ahead and your thread hold you in one piece forever. May you surpass the challenges of life.

THANK FOR COMING INTO MY LIFE, I THANK GOD I FOUND YOU AND YOU I.

YOUR GREATEST FAN,

FOREVER AND ALWAYS.

E.T

Hi , this is my first post obviously and i'd like to write al little about my self , I'd probably do that later on.
So this blog is basically about my upcoming fashion line , This my fashion design passion started in  2012.That year was a harsh year for me though, a lot happen including my inability to only learn how to be able to complete my training. I could only stay for 1 month , and that one month sef was frustrating. My so called "tutor" kept on telling me to sew a straight line,LOL. if she saw me trying to try something new , she would become upset and start talking anyhow in from of everyone .

My dad  got a sewing machine for me later on , and trust me i was too eager to sew , i wasted almost all the materials that i came in contact with . I thank God for my awesome family that always supported me . I sewed my first skirt in 2012, but i couldn't wear it of course .I watched videos on youtube , they helped a little tho, but i still spoiled a lot of materials .


Fastfoward to 2014, all these while i didnt go back to improve my sewing skills oh, i was so determined to stay away from that woman . Oh well, when my dad gave me money for clothes or school  i'd just use like half to buy sewing supplies like scissors, chalk, even materials i'd still spoil.
 I honestly wanted to give up several times and focus on Accounting , but my family and other things kept me on track.


My first presentable project aside my tote bags were my skirts  i sewed for school, PS: there is a story behind the skirts LOL.


So i got a lot better , and one of the results of my major successful projects will be posted soon.

I'd tell more stories as time goes on ... Cheers .

 It took me a long time to startup this blog,

My gratitiude goes majorly to God Almighty for this opportunity